Saturday, July 3, 2010

July 3, 2008

It's been T W O years, since we've had Yolanta and Katie home.
What baffels me even more, is that it took 2.5 years to get them home.
Do the math with me, that's 4.5 years since Husband and I said "Let's adopt."

So much has happened these past ~5 years that I'm beginning to get suspicious that someone has pushed the fast forward button on LIFE.

This is the first picture we ever received of the girls.

This morning I had a special moment with Yolanta and gave her a journal. I got it like 7 months ago from a cute little store called Piccolo Mondo Toys in Portland (a store that has a variety of toys from all around the world) and have been waiting for today to give it to her.

The journal I got for Yolanta.

Yolie is a mixed bag character leading some to believe she is a quiet, shy, reserved little girl, while other see her spunky, crazy, hilarious side and think she's a spaz!
Both are accurate. She’s complex and I think she has a lot of memories she’s not telling me about in that pretty little mind of hers.
I’m hoping the journal will not necessarily get her talk about things she’s not willing to bring forth, but at least give her a special way of documenting her feelings. Who knows, maybe I’ll learn more about her from her writing than from our heart to heart talks. Or maybe I’ll just learn regular 8 year old things like her favorite color and what her name looks like written in all the colors of her marker bin. We’ll see. I love you and your mysteriousness.

My beautiful daughter, Yolanta.

I had a special moment with Katie and gave her a book called Whoever You Are by Mem Fox. It talks about the different kinds of children all over the world, how they look and talk differently from each other, but how they all laugh, cry, play and love the same. She loves it!

The book I got for Katie.

She’s getting really good at writing her ABC’s and is for sure on a successful road to reading, but she’s not ready for a journal. Too bad because I’d love to have her document all the memories she comes up with. The thing about it is, they’re largely made up. Did you know she saw Shrek in Haiti? And had a pink cell phone? And 27 pillows on her bed? The saddest “memories” are the ones that involve her biological mother, whom she wants to go visit. Does she not remember that she died, or does she not understand what death is? Oh honey, I love you.

My beautiful daughter, Katie.

I also had a special moment with Amy. I said, “Do you know what today is?” and she replied, “It’s the two year anniversary of the girls coming home! Can you even believe I was an only child 2 years ago!?” I gave her a book titled “Someday” by Alison McGhee. It’s about a mom who shares everyday moments that mark milestones in her daughter’s life. It’s a precious book that actually makes me tear up as I read it to her. I teared up in Target forever ago when I bought it.

The book I got for Amy.

After a few minutes of chatting, something else she said struck me. She said, “It doesn’t even seem like they’re adopted, Mom. It seems like they’re biological! Sometimes I forget that we adopted them!” Part of me says WAIT! Don’t forget the 6 years of only-child-wonderful-ness that we shared! Don’t let those days slip away from you! But then part of me says YES, yes, we are family. They are sisters, daughters, forever.

My beautiful daughter, Amy.

One of the Haitian blogs I read has an arts and crafts section and I bought these handcrafted dolls made by a Haitian woman. They were delivered to my door and I presented them to my girls today as little celebratory gifts to mark the 2 years the girls have been home (along with the books). They all love them and look super adorable on their beds.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: raising older children is challenging. There is so much involved and none of it can be fully prepared for in advance. I am eternally thankful that I believe in, love and have a direct line of communication with the Creator of all people. The One who knows what to do. The God of wisdom, comfort and protection. I love you, Lord, and thank You for being a part of my life. A part of my family.

The handmade Haitian dolls straight from Haiti.


A picture of the girls today.


Corey said...

Wait! On what blog did you read about those dolls? They are adorable!

ALL of your daughters are beautiful. I nearly cried reading this post. And I confess, especially the part about not wanting your oldest to forget the 6 years of being an only child. Ours was an only child for 8 years before she became the oldest of (eventually) 6.

Anonymous said...

My favorite part is when Amy says "It doesn't even seem like they're adopted." True sister love, no matter what. They will love each other forever. Beautiful!

Kelli said...

They are so Beautiful. Wow I so Blessed to see these girls in the perfect home. Taken care of and nurtured. :)

Donovan and Julie said...

So I love Mem Fox, but I loooove those dolls (and the a+ dorable pink cheeks on them even more)! Oh, happy, happy anniversary!

The Everett Family said...

I love how sweet and sentimental you have made this special day. I had to check out “Someday” by Alison McGhee after your post. I was tearing up in Target too!

Salzwedel Family said...

Beautiful post in so many ways...

Julie said...

We love celebrating adoption day around here. We usually spend the whole day together doing family stuff.
I am going to get a journal for my middle daughter. She is the quiet one who I never know what she is thinking. Good idea.
My four older kids all have "made up" memories.
I had to explain this to a social worker one time who was believing everything one of my former foster children said. It's so sad.

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