Sunday, May 18, 2008

Notes on Criticism

Definition from noun 1.the act of passing judgment as to the merits of anything.

People criticise for many reasons; insecurity, fear, compassion, anger, expectation (and more)

How should I receive criticism?

  1. Ask God - Am I pleasing YOU?
  2. Affirm the truth
  3. Assume the best
  4. Address the critic - when the information is inacurate
  5. Avoid chronic critics

When should I give criticism?

  1. After I check the facts
  2. After I check my motives
  3. After I earn respect
  4. After I get permission
Proverbs 18:13 - He who answers before listening—that is his folly and his shame.

To hear the AbFab sermon by Pastor Paul full of Biblical text and from where I got these notes, click here and listen to May 11th.


Blessed Mama of 4 said...

Rom 8:1 "So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus." NLT

NLT says "belong"... wow.. so yea, we were purchased by the blood of Christ... he died for the sins of the world. I think that means we all belong to Christ Jesus, so there is no condemnation. We can't judge others.

I did like what Pastor Paul said though about the importance of having significance in someone's life. If we see an area needing correction in someone else, you can't approach them with out knowing them... earn respect, get permission. Then we can share in love. I'm praying to loose my critical heart of condemnation for everyone else and in place hope to find wisdom and discernment.

christa jean said...

I like the 4 points under "When should I give criticism" and I would have to add from my own personal experience,

5. After you've prayed long and hard.

Done it the wrong way. Don't want to ever again.

Tami Rutledge said...

Thank you for your comment on my blog.

I have found one good thing about criticism, it reveals just how I am doing in the area of pride. He who began a good work in me knows just how to show me how the work is progressing!

Psalm 141:5
Let a righteous man strike me—it is a kindness; let him rebuke me—it is oil on my head. My head will not refuse it.

thank you again.